Sometimes the hardest part about Elder Law is knowing when you are in a position to help an older adult into a better, healthier, more sustainable lifestyle and when you are going to be told to “mind your own beeswax!” by the older adult you want to help. Many times, we meet with friends, neighbors and family members of elders who may need help (similar to this advice column) but refuse it, and it is hard to tell if the refusal is due to incapacity or just their desire to be independent. People have the right to make bad decisions, but when you can see the consequences a mile away, it’s difficult to allow those consequences to unfold. If you think that you know a vulnerable adult and are concerned that they are being exploited or not taking care of themselves, you can anonymously call Adult Protective Services (APS) and report your concerns. APS is required to investigate all referrals. But if you are looking to just talk about the conundrum of a loved one who might be “in denial” about what he or she needs in the next phase of life, give us a call!